Traveling Light http://starttravelinglight.com Meet Love Halfway Thu, 23 May 2013 21:25:32 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 Join Kira, twice a week, for some smack-down, reality checks on love, dating and being single in this messy but beautiful world we live in. Whether she is answering listeners questions, interviewing genius coaches and experts or just going off on a topic that needs some “clarification” (aka hard core truths about some kind of crap people are buying into) she will be bringing in smart, fresh thoughts that can help you change your perspective on love. Because when you change your perspective you change your life. If you are ready to stop waiting for love and start creating an amazing relationship, then we are on like Donkey Kong! Kira Sabin yes Kira Sabin kira@starttravelinglight.com kira@starttravelinglight.com (Kira Sabin) Lots of love and dating genius shoved into seven little minutes. It's kinda like self-help for the ADHD. dating, love, relationships, life coaching, romance, dating coach, sex, singles, Traveling Light http://starttravelinglight.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/TL_podcast-1.jpg http://starttravelinglight.com Madison, WI Weekly WTF? Why Do Guys Do That? {Podcast} http://starttravelinglight.com/wtf-why-do-guys-do-that-podcast/ http://starttravelinglight.com/wtf-why-do-guys-do-that-podcast/#comments Thu, 23 May 2013 21:17:32 +0000 Kira http://starttravelinglight.com/?p=2029 We all have had the moments when we are out there dating and all of a sudden are asking ourselves… WTF???  I mean really….why did they do that? Listen to my latest podcast that lays down some truth bombs about what to do when we get stuck in that WTF place.   {please allow a few seconds to load} Your Adventure of the Day: Journal on these questions and feel [...]

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]]> http://starttravelinglight.com/wtf-why-do-guys-do-that-podcast/feed/ 0 dating,divorced,How To Dating,kinda life changing,love is an adventure,singles,trust issues,why didn't he call We all have had the moments when we are out there dating and all of a sudden are asking ourselves... WTF???  I mean really....why did they do that? Listen to my latest podcast that lays down some truth bombs about what to do when we get stuck in that... We all have had the moments when we are out there dating and all of a sudden are asking ourselves... WTF???  I mean really....why did they do that? Listen to my latest podcast that lays down some truth bombs about what to do when we get stuck in that WTF place.   {please allow a few seconds to load} Your Adventure of the Day: Journal on these questions and feel free to share your answers below. Create a list of all of the WTF’s in your life.  Whether they are with someone you are seeing, friends, family or even co-workers.  If you are not ok with it, how are you going to teach them to treat you?  What are you going to tell them you need? What can you do in return?   Can't listen right now (cause we know you are probably at work!)  That's ok, check us out on itunes and download for your workout or commute!    Check out all of our podcasts here.   Just remember....I can help!  I have 1 more opening for summer coaching and a sweet ass discount. Email me and we can talk it out!   -Kira Kira Sabin yes 7:21 The Heart Wants What The Heart Wants Podcast http://starttravelinglight.com/the-heart/ http://starttravelinglight.com/the-heart/#comments Thu, 16 May 2013 15:57:01 +0000 Kira http://starttravelinglight.com/?p=2019 Oh, the heart. It plays such an important role in love….it leads you towards love and even breaks a little when it is over. OR DOES IT??? Listen to my latest podcast that lays down some truth bombs about the heart and all of it’s wily ways.  Plus, hear the very first announcement of my upcoming cruise.  I am finally putting the “travel” in Traveling Light! {please allow a few [...]

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]]> http://starttravelinglight.com/the-heart/feed/ 0 dating, relationships, sex, romance, love, happiness, self-help, Oh, the heart. It plays such an important role in love....it leads you towards love and even breaks a little when it is over. - OR DOES IT??? - Listen to my latest podcast that lays down some truth bombs about the heart and all of it's wily ways. Oh, the heart. It plays such an important role in love....it leads you towards love and even breaks a little when it is over. OR DOES IT??? Listen to my latest podcast that lays down some truth bombs about the heart and all of it's wily ways.  Plus, hear the very first announcement of my upcoming cruise.  I am finally putting the "travel" in Traveling Light! {please allow a few seconds to load} Today's hard core truth to tweet out: We can't always help who we are attracted to, but we DO get to choose if they stay in our life. Your Adventure of the Day: Journal on these questions and feel free to share your answers below. What bad behavior and excuses are you blaming on the heart? Where are you victimizing yourself so that you can’t move forward towards love?   Can't listen right now (cause we know you are probably at work!)  Get transcripts for the podcast here and listen later! Just remember....I can help!  I have 2 more openings for summer coaching and a sweet ass discount. Email me and we can talk it out! -Kira   Kira Sabin yes 7:26 Why Will Smith Should Quit Hollywood and Be A Life Coach http://starttravelinglight.com/why-will-smith-should-quit-hollywood-and-be-a-life-coach/ http://starttravelinglight.com/why-will-smith-should-quit-hollywood-and-be-a-life-coach/#comments Fri, 10 May 2013 16:36:45 +0000 Kira http://starttravelinglight.com/?p=2010 I love Will Smith. Sure, he was Hitch, a movie my career gets compared to all of the time.  He also did the amazing classic Parents Just Don’t Understand.  One of the few rap songs I know all the words to.  Ok, like half the words.  FINE!  Like 3 lines.  Stop judging me!!!!! HOWEVER, whether you are a fan of The Fresh Prince or not, you should love him for [...]

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]]> http://starttravelinglight.com/why-will-smith-should-quit-hollywood-and-be-a-life-coach/feed/ 0 How & Why To Let Someone Know You Are NOT Interested Podcast http://starttravelinglight.com/podcast-how-and-why-to-let-someone-know-you-are-not-interested/ http://starttravelinglight.com/podcast-how-and-why-to-let-someone-know-you-are-not-interested/#comments Thu, 09 May 2013 14:47:28 +0000 Kira http://starttravelinglight.com/?p=2001 Well shoot! I blogged about this a while ago, but it needed to be said.  Out loud.  To the masses.  Yes, I am being dramatic. I can’t even try to tell you how many times I hear the stories.  ”We had a couple of dates, I was interested and then I never heard from them again!”   I mean, what????  What about dating nowadays says that you don’t need to [...]

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]]> http://starttravelinglight.com/podcast-how-and-why-to-let-someone-know-you-are-not-interested/feed/ 0 Well shoot! I blogged about this a while ago, but it needed to be said.  Out loud.  To the masses.  Yes, I am being dramatic. - I can't even try to tell you how many times I hear the stories.  "We had a couple of dates, Well shoot! I blogged about this a while ago, but it needed to be said.  Out loud.  To the masses.  Yes, I am being dramatic. I can't even try to tell you how many times I hear the stories.  "We had a couple of dates, I was interested and then I never heard from them again!"   I mean, what????  What about dating nowadays says that you don't need to let someone know you are interested.  That letting them hang there, wondering what the heck happened, has become ok.  I am on a mission to change this and I want your help. Today's podcast is the importance or changing this and then HOW to do it. {please allow a few seconds to load} Today's hard core truth to tweet out: When you are dating, there are going to be freak outs & awkward moments, but we HAVE to remember to be kind to each other. Your Adventure of the Day: Today, is easy.  Just commit to help make the change.  Understanding that with this basic kindness comes more love.  Then....SPREAD THE WORD!  40 people doing this is a change, but what about 400 or 4000?  What would that mean for dating today?  How would everything look if we all just were a little kinder to each other. Need help?  Here is a script for you to follow when that awkward moment happens. Script for letting someone down easy “I just want to tell you thank you so much for the time we have spent together.  I have to be honest that I am not wanting to move this forward and just don’t feel it is what I am looking for right now.  I  have really loved getting to know you and truly appreciating getting a glimpse into your life.  I wish you the best of luck. “ Get transcripts for the podcast here! Let's effin get on this!  Change the world with me!!!!!   -Kira Kira Sabin yes 8:02 Why Do You Want A Relationship Podcast http://starttravelinglight.com/why-do-you-want-a-relationship-podcast/ http://starttravelinglight.com/why-do-you-want-a-relationship-podcast/#comments Wed, 01 May 2013 13:00:29 +0000 Kira http://starttravelinglight.com/?p=1967 So you say you want a relationship.  Ok, why?  When was the last time you sat down and really asked yourself that question.  It is something I ask every potential client and many of them don’t have the answer.  It is just assumed as the next step in so many people’s lives.  But if you have no idea what you are looking for how will you know when you have [...]

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]]> http://starttravelinglight.com/why-do-you-want-a-relationship-podcast/feed/ 0 So you say you want a relationship.  Ok, why?  When was the last time you sat down and really asked yourself that question.  It is something I ask every potential client and many of them don’t have the answer. So you say you want a relationship.  Ok, why?  When was the last time you sat down and really asked yourself that question.  It is something I ask every potential client and many of them don’t have the answer.  It is just assumed as the next step in so many people’s lives.  But if you have no idea what you are looking for how will you know when you have found it?  One thing our world of vast options has brought us is the inability to be sure we have made the right choice.  Constantly wondering if there is something better out there.  So let me clarify. YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHAT YOU NEED AND ARE LOOKING FOR IN A RELATIONSHIP OR YOU AREN’T GOING TO FIND IT!!!   Listen to Kira's first podcast and thoughts on what your answers SHOULDN'T BE. {please allow a few seconds to load}   Today's hard core truth to tweet out: Any relationship that starts in fear will never end in love.   Your Adventure of the Day: Today, I want you to sit down and write a paragraph about why you want a relationship.  If it is because you think it is the final destination, it isn't.  Just a next step in your journey and if you have been in a major one, you know it isn't easy.   Here are some great suggestions on what you could put down about why you want a relationship.  Are you there yet? *I feel really happy with my life and am ready to share that with someone else so I can learn things about myself that I can’t alone. *I am ready to enjoy the companionship that comes along with a major relationship. *I feel ready to openly express what I need in a relationship, as well as, listen to what my partner needs.  Meeting love halfway. *I am ready to trust someone enough to see all parts of me.  The goods and the not-so-goods. *I feel that I am in a place to openly give and receive love. *I want a partner-in-crime that I can laugh with and have fun with. *I know that real relationships are hard and I am ready to commit to working through the hard stuff with the right person. You might also include how you like to be loved, (love language-take the quiz here) how you need to be heard and your relationship style.   Feeling awesome?  Share it with us below in the comments or just let us know you have taken this step towards creating better relationships!  I am happy to share thoughts or just tell you how cool you are Kira Sabin yes 7:29 I Admit It, I Have Been Known To Fake It http://starttravelinglight.com/i-admit-it-i-have-been-known-to-fake-it/ http://starttravelinglight.com/i-admit-it-i-have-been-known-to-fake-it/#comments Wed, 24 Apr 2013 17:02:40 +0000 Kira http://starttravelinglight.com/?p=1961 Yup, that’s right.  There have been many days where I have straight up, no holds barred, pulled most of it out of my ass. For as cool as people think being a life coach for singles (or dating coach) sounds, it has been a whole bucket of hard. I was not given a business model to follow. There were no super successful dating coaches instructing me from the wings like a [...]

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]]> http://starttravelinglight.com/i-admit-it-i-have-been-known-to-fake-it/feed/ 0 When To Introduce Your Kids To Your New Partner http://starttravelinglight.com/when-to-introduce-your-kids-to-your-new-partner/ http://starttravelinglight.com/when-to-introduce-your-kids-to-your-new-partner/#comments Thu, 18 Apr 2013 13:00:49 +0000 Shannon http://starttravelinglight.com/?p=1938 One of the things I wanted to offer on TL was real conversations about love and dating for single parents. I just happened to know this incredible single mom who is out there and talking about it. Her articles drew me in and I found myself going back to blog again and again, even though I don’t have kids. She joins us occasionally to share her stories and wisdom. Meet [...]

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]]> http://starttravelinglight.com/proof-of-our-skewed-view-of-beauty/feed/ 0 Why Online Dating Sucks http://starttravelinglight.com/why-online-dating-sucks/ http://starttravelinglight.com/why-online-dating-sucks/#comments Wed, 10 Apr 2013 19:27:35 +0000 Kira http://starttravelinglight.com/?p=1890 I mean it really, really does, right? Someone has to say it and it might as well be me. After all of the stories I have heard, the drama that has ensued and the amount of clients and friends I have had to talk off the ledge because of it, I think it is time we talked.  It is time we talked about how online dating is a severely flawed [...]

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]]> http://starttravelinglight.com/why-online-dating-sucks/feed/ 0 I mean it really, really does, right? Someone has to say it and it might as well be me. - After all of the stories I have heard, the drama that has ensued and the amount of clients and friends I have had to talk off the ledge because of it, I mean it really, really does, right? Someone has to say it and it might as well be me. After all of the stories I have heard, the drama that has ensued and the amount of clients and friends I have had to talk off the ledge because of it, I think it is time we talked.  It is time we talked about how online dating is a severely flawed process.  That it is leaving some people more frustrated and disappointed than when they started.  That it might not be the best match for you and that is ok. Yes, we all know couples who met online.  Somebody's sister-in-law's cousin twice removed.  That is what fuels our fire.  If you are online dating, having a great time and meeting amazing people, then this article isn't for you.  Feel free to read one of my other genius articles, here. If you are one of the other millions of people who are getting frustrated, here is why it might not be a great match for you. Online dating has become like holiday shopping for a significant other.  You enter in the input of what you want "Male, 32-40, over 6 foot, advanced degree, physically fit, makes over 60,000, non-smoker, wants kids, also loves dogs, wine tastings and European travel."  We then comb over the handful of profiles, throwing out possible mismatches (bad spelling, he like cats, wtf?), looking for "the one" who fits our perfect list.  Then when we do find that one random person that does fit all of our supposed "must-haves" we get our hopes up so far that we are devastated when a real person shows up, at some point, with their own set of flaws and baggage.  Maybe they are only 5'10 (LIAR!) or God forbid, you are not actually what THEY are looking for. *GASP!* Then you complain as the boxed wine flows freely, "All the good ones are taken or gay.  I am forever single. I give up on love." Sad trombone. This isn't Weird Science!  We can't just enter in specs and have the perfect man/woman show up at your door.  You would be missing all of the amazing stuff if they did! Here is why online dating may not work for you. It may not work if you are not the average height, age, weight or career.  It may not work if you are not naturally a great speller, struggle with grammar, don't have tons of great pics of yourself or have no freaking clue how to express all that you are in 3-4 paragraphs.  That is A LOT of people and a lot of those people may not look great on paper, but could love you like crazy and create an awesome relationship with you. You might be one of those "unaverage" people and I am happy that you are. It is the unaverage that make us different.  It makes us real and in the real is where the incredible stuff happens. So, if you are feeling frustrated and disappointed, it's ok!  It might not be the best way for you to get all of your awesomeness out there.  If you want to keep using it, think of it this way.  The best number I can find is that 20% of people meet online.  So use online dating 20% of the time when you are out there meeting people.  But fill the rest with offline. I personally think offline is where it is at.  Sure, it seems a little scarier, but isn't love worth it? Need help?  Ummmm...you know I do this for a living, right?  Just happen to kick ass at it too.  Ready to give a shot?  Let's make it happen, sailor.  -Kira Kira Sabin yes Are You Special? http://starttravelinglight.com/are-you-special/ http://starttravelinglight.com/are-you-special/#comments Fri, 05 Apr 2013 17:00:37 +0000 Kira http://starttravelinglight.com/?p=1893 I remember being young. Young enough that there was still an aging Ziggy t-shirt hanging on my clothes line and possible scabs on my knees. (I should point out I am really klutzy so there was scabby limbs way past the average age.)  My guess would be around 13. At the time, I had an lovely and odd friendship with a neighbor boy who was three years older than me.  It [...]

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